I’m sure that I had something different planned for today, but then… God happened to me.

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Yesterday I was preparing for my family to visit my and King’s new home when all of a sudden King Facetimed me. He led with “I’m fine…” and I knew in that moment that everything was NOT ok. As it turns out, while he was out for the afternoon, his defibrillator went off, shocking him and rendering him to his knees. After regaining full mobility and energy, he immediately called me. As I listened to him share his experience, I was flooded with an array of emotions, and I fought so hard not to cry or scream. On the one hand, I was severely mad at myself for not having joined him that afternoon. I do not know what my presence would have actually done, but in my mind, being there would have drastically changed things for the better. On the other hand, I was terrified because, well, what if???

What if he didn’t have the defibrillator?
What if it had shocked him more than once?
What if he had not regained consciousness?
What if he hadn’t been able to call me?
What if, in the blink of an eye, my entire life had changed?
What if?

As he continued, I began to fade from both the anger and the “what-its” and entered a place of gratitude.

God had given King’s doctors the wisdom to encourage the ICD (defibrillator) in January 2025.
God had spared his life (many times over).
God had placed a cardio nurse in the same place as King in the exact moment that his defibrillator shocked him.
God gave King enough strength, power, and wherewithal to call me.
God allowed King to drive home safely.
God granted me the ability to hold him in my arms.

After counting my blessings and my gratitudes, I realized that that list far outweighed the what-ifs, and my heart was at peace. King lived for yet another day, and as my eyes safely released the tears that they had been holding back, my heart uttered praises to my God.

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So why am I sharing all of this here today? This is a warning to all my single sisters (and brothers) around the world- being in a relationship requires massive amounts of prayer and time with God.

It was once said that what you do to get a partner, you must continue to do when you have that partner. To spice it up and remix it for the Christian community, if you prayed to get that partner, continue to pray to keep that partner.

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Long before I ever met him, I prayed for King. I prayed for his health and his entire well-being. I asked God to make him a leader at work and a trusted source amongst his peers. I asked God to remove from his path those who meant him harm and did not contribute to his life. I asked God to bless his finances, both for his needs and for our future goals. I prayed that he would be able to love me the way that I needed to be loved, while also helping me to grow as a person. I prayed that he would lead me and help me grow in my relationship with God. I prayed that he would be up for adventures, willing to travel, and wanting to see the world with me. I prayed that we would be able to learn from one another and never be too proud to receive knowledge from one another. Most importantly, I asked God to send him to me when I was far enough in my healing journey to be able to appreciate him and recognize him when he came. Even before August 6, 2022, when I met King at a mutual friend’s house, I had been praying for him.

And my prayers didn’t stop then.

In the years since we have been in each other’s lives, I have continued to pray for King. My prayers have become more intentional, more specific, and more continuous. My prayers have also shifted to include prayers of gratitude for all that God has done, is doing, and will do. Yet no matter the type, I pray for King. I need God to know that this gift was definitely the greatest of all time and that he truly is the gift that keeps on giving.

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Long story short, I need my single readers to know this. When God does bless you with a partner- COVER THEM IN PRAYER!!!! Pray for their coming in and going out. Pray for their bodies, from the crown of their head to the soles of their feet. Pray over their past (yes, their past), pray over their present, and pray for their future. Beloved, if you are not ready to bombard God with prayers for your partner, then do not enter a relationship.

Period.

You’ve been warned.

Be blessed.